Its Ok to be Quiet! C.Cavanagh (HeadsUp Advisor)
Feeling a bit intimidated in groups while the “Popular Girls” steal all of the attention? You spent aaaages getting ready, look like Cheryl Cole and are wearing the perfect new outfit yet Motor mouth Melissa has all the gorge lads chatting to her? You mutter the answer to a teacher’s question, but Betty Blabbermouth shouts the answer louder so gets the credit?
Don’t beat yourself up about being a teeny bit on the shy side… Bask in the glory of having the golden gift of quietness!
I’ll tell you why…
People will feel safe and trust you
If you’re known for being peaceful and respectful of all of those in the group, chances are your classmates will trust you not to spread nasty gossip about them or tell all of their secrets to the rest of the school.
Listening is a great quality to have
It can be frustrating if you look noticeably upset and want to get something off your chest, but the friend you are talking to takes no notice of your teary eyes and just keep on talking… People will like you for listening, not just yapping away without checking if your buddy is listening or fast asleep.
You will not annoy other people
If you’re not jabbering on and on and ON… you have a 100% guarantee you are not wrecking the heads of people. Win/win situation, huh?
Since you are pausing only to say what you really mean is clever, you will only be only known for good stuff
If you talk when you only have really important stuff to say, it may mean less “Oooppss I didn’t mean to say that!” moments.
Quietness is attractive and sexy
Cute boys eventually get turned off by girls who can’t zip it! They also get bored listening to her constant bragging about herself, zzzzz.
Here’s another secret too; a lad doesn’t want to know everything about a girl the first minute he meets her. That makes life boring. Being mysterious will make the guys want to know more!
To finish off, here’s a super-brainy Latin proverb:
“Keep quiet and people will think you are a philosopher
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I think this is so right. Sometimes people natter on while saying nothing. They might appear to be really confident but its not always true. You don’t need to be the centre of attention to be popular.
Im starting to think I should talk less.