If you’re feeling suicidal, call for help! Help can come from a number of sources, friends, family, colleagues or strangers. There are also a number of different helpline available to you. Text HeadsUp to 50424 for a list of support organisation or access the information on the Getting Help Section.
Remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. When you are feeling extremely depressed or suicidal, problems don’t seem temporary – they seem overwhelming and permanent. But with time, you will feel better, especially if you reach out for help
Some things to remember
Feeling suicidal does not mean that you do not want to live.
Thoughts of ending your own life do not necessarily mean that you truly want to die—they mean, rather, that you have more pain than you can cope with right now. The pain of things such as depression, isolation, rejection, hopelessness and loss is intense. It can be a lot to cope with for long periods of time.
What might be bearable to someone else may not be to you.
Many kinds of emotional pain may lead to thoughts of suicide. The reasons for this pain are unique to every person, and whether or not the pain is bearable differs from person to person. But even if you’re in a lot of pain, give yourself some distance between thoughts and action. Make a promise to yourself, ‘I will wait 24 hours and won't do anything drastic during that time.’ Or, ‘I promise myself not to act on my thoughts of suicide until I speak to someone who can help me.’
Thoughts and actions are two different things - your suicidal thoughts do not have to become a reality. There is no deadline. There's no time limit, no one pushing you to act on these thoughts right now. Wait. Wait and put some distance between your suicidal thoughts and suicidal action.
Reaching out for help
It is important that you find some relief from your pain. To do that, you will need to find a way to increase your connections with people who will listen. Even if it doesn't feel like it right now, there are many people who want to support you during this difficult time.
Reach out to just one person. Do it now. You can call a trusted friend, family member, priest, doctor, or therapist. It doesn’t matter who it is, as long as it’s someone you trust and who is likely to listen with compassion and acceptance.
It may be difficult for someone who loves and cares for you to listen to your pain. They may be surprised, shocked or guilty but it is important that you tell them how you feel. If you feel it will help, print the fact sheet ‘Supporting someone who is thinking of suicide’ and give it to them.
If you don’t know who to talk about how you are feeling; call the Samaritans on 1950 60 90 90 who provide a 24 hours listening service 7 days a week.
Even if your suicidal feelings have subsided, get help for yourself. Experiencing that sort of emotional pain is itself a traumatizing experience. Finding a support group or counsellor can be very helpful in developing strong coping resources for the future e.g. Pieta House www.pieta.ie
Ways to cope with suicidal thoughts and feelings
Remember that while it may feel as if your depressive thoughts will never end, depression is never a permanent condition. You will feel better again. In the meantime, here are some things you can do to cope with your suicidal thoughts and feelings:
- Contact your GP for support and treatment
- Stay in contact with your GP or mental health professional, especially when you are feeling worse.
- Follow the advice given by your GP or mental health professional
- Talk with someone every day, preferably face to face. Though you feel like withdrawing, ask trusted friends and acquaintances to spend time with you.
- If you are thinking of taking an overdose, give your medicines to someone who can give them to you one day at a time.
- Remove any dangerous objects or weapons from your home.
- Avoid alcohol and other drugs. They will only make you feel worse.
- Wait until you are feeling better before doing things you find difficult or unpleasant.
- Make a written schedule for yourself every day and stick to it, no matter what.
- Don't skip meals, and get at least eight hours of sleep each night.
- Get out in the sun or into nature for at least 30-minutes a day.
- Make time for things that bring you joy.